My husband is returning from Kuwait ... a small Dilemma he wants ?

Lady, I suggest that you decide what you want, to make a point; or to help your marriage. When I was in the service, IF my wife had told me no , after a long separation, the marriage would have ended as quickly as I could have managed it. Now, you apparently already told him you don't plan to leap into bed. Now, IF he gets killed BEFORE he heads home, you will live with the knowledge that you hurt him, just to make a silly point, and you'll NEVER have a chance to fix things.